True Love... finally discovered.

Below is a blog that I wrote over 2 years ago on myspace.... and I see it fit to begin my new blog journey here with it. I describe what I think true love is... and I think I finally found it.

So we think we've all experienced it.... but really, what's the likelihood if it's "true" meaning is so rare?

I was talking to one of my friends today in email and I went all gush on her about this...
I've had a sort of an awakening recently. I've come to realize the joy of having 'true friends' and how fortunate I am to have these people in my life. These people aren't necessarily people I've known all my life, but they have for sure been around long enough to make me feel like I've known them all my life.

We don't pretend around each other. We are not "cautious" in our words with each other for fear of being judged. We are not scared to be ourselves around each other. We don't worry about being misunderstood. We value each of our opinions. We forget birthdays and it's okay. We may talk 5 times a day, or we may not talk for a month and it's fine.We know we will be there for each other until the end. There are no lies, not even lil white ones. Just honesty all the time. It's the most amazing feeling of comfort. And what a great feeling that is, knowing this 'true' friendship will last forever. And I'm thinking if its this great to have this in a friend, imagine what it's like to have this in a significant other....

I've had boyfriends I thought I loved. And maybe I did, but it obviously wasn't 'true' love otherwise we would be together, right? Or maybe he just didnt feel the same way I did ultimately. There was always something I didn't want to say for fear of what he may think. Often he wouldn't get my 'honest' answer to a question for fear of being judged. I seldom put on an "act" to make him believe I was a particular way... only for it to backfire several months or even years later because that wasn't the 'real' me and I was unable to be happy because of it. I have never been able to be my 'true' self with a boyfriend, and I think I've been missing out...
But what if... you were totally yourself all the time?? Always say what's on your mind. Ask him the questions you want to know instead of trying to guess. Call him when you want. Laugh out loud when you really want. Tell him the honest truth when he asks you questions. Don't ever lie, even about the little things. Share your honest opinions even though you know he doesn't have the same one. Give him the real reasons you don't want to do something instead of a lame excuse, even if your reason is simply "I just don't want to". Never do something you really don't want to. Always do what's going to make yourself happy before trying to make him happy. Be friends with him. Be your "true" self and what can go wrong? He doesn't like 'you'? Who cares, at you least you know sooner than later. And if he does... GREAT! You were yourself and you were true to him and yourself. And what's better than that? And why waste your precious life's time pretending with someone? If you can't do all those things with your guy, then maybe he's not really your guy.

So that's my depiction of 'true love'... it's real close to 'true friends'. And nothing can beat either one.